What are your thoughts on/experience with the marriage rule of never going to bed mad?
My answer:
If I had followed that rule I would have probably been awake since sometime in the early months of our marriage. When it's late I seem to lose all sense of... everything, and am likely to become a bundle of resentment and/or despair with little willpower to put toward seeing reason/forgiving/admitting I'm wrong/getting the heck over it. Plus, we're not the best communicators. So I/we go to bed mad.
By the time I wake up I have a fresh new, or rather, an 8 hour-old, sense of resentment and/or despair over the injustice that is my marriage but by then, or sometime that day I get sick of talking to Greg only when necessary and in as robotic a tone as I can muster (so mature!), so I stop it and everything goes back to normal (within a day or two) i.e. I start thinking he's one of the best people in the world.
I can't wait until we're perfect and Greg and I are finally decent communicators and he finally understands that I'm always in the right.
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